{"id":6023,"date":"2010-07-10T03:46:22","date_gmt":"2010-07-10T10:46:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.midnighteast.com\/mag\/?p=6023"},"modified":"2010-07-18T23:38:34","modified_gmt":"2010-07-19T06:38:34","slug":"jerusalem-film-festival-2010-documenting-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.midnighteast.com\/mag\/?p=6023","title":{"rendered":"Jerusalem Film Festival 2010: Documenting Love"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Ibtisam Salh Mara\u2019ana\/Photo: Nir Shaananai<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

What chance encounter will change your life? If you are a documentary filmmaker, and the subject of your own film, this is a charged question not only for you, but anyone you happen to meet. It is one thing to impose the constant presence and close scrutiny of the camera on your own life, but how will it affect those close to you and your relationships with them? What happens when you wander into the life of someone making a documentary about that life?<\/p>\n

These were some of the questions in my mind as the credits rolled on the documentary \u201c77 Steps\u201d, <\/a>screened on Friday, July 9, at the 27th Jerusalem Film Festival, in the presence of Ibtisam Salh Mara\u2019ana, the film\u2019s creator. The film follows the relationship between Ibtisam, a Muslim from a village in the north, and Jonathan, her Jewish-Canadian neighbor in Tel Aviv. Personal, political and artistic all converged as Mara\u2019ana stepped up to the mic after the screening.<\/p>\n

Visibly moved, she said, \u201cThank you. I\u2019m already crying\u2026what should I say first? Where is Yonatan? (The Hebrew version of Jonathan) Do you feel like coming up here? Come.\u201d He joined her onstage, carrying a bouquet of flowers, and she quipped, \u201cDon\u2019t tell me these are for me. You never brought me flowers.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Jonathan and Ibtisaam\/Photo: Nir Shaananai<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

These two courageous people not only tried to pursue a relationship that broke all the rules \u2013 they let the world watch. One, as part of an artistic process, the other\u2026who knows? In this film, as in many other personal documentaries, it is not always possible to discern the extent to which the people filmed want to be involved in such an endeavor. The film itself only testifies that they were willing to be filmed and have the footage included in the final product.<\/p>\n

Mara\u2019ana addressed the audience, saying, \u201cWhen we fall in love, our heart doesn\u2019t ask us if it is permitted or forbidden. I was not blessed with white skin\u2026\u201d The flow of tears stopped the flow of words, but she regained her voice and continued, \u201cI was not born Jewish, and I don\u2019t speak English to meet the expectations of Yonatan\u2019s mother. And he is not Muslim and cannot speak Arabic to satisfy my mother.<\/p>\n

We met as strangers in the city. We were searching for a sense of belonging\u2026sometimes it was just the two of us against the world. Even now, on this day, our families are not with us, and that is very sad. Yet I am embraced by good friends.\u201d<\/p>\n

Mara\u2019ana, who is very politically involved \u2013 one of the dimensions explored in the film \u2013 spoke of her bewilderment and dismay at the current political situation, saying, \u201cHow can it be that we put our lives in the hands of politicians who fail time after time? We are all good people, yet peace does not come.\u201d She spoke of her fears and worries, large and small, yet concluded, \u201cI know and believe that there is a better future for us all, Arabs, Jews and my dog.\u201d She thanked the film\u2019s sponsors, the Makor Foundation and YesDoco, Avi Belleli who did the music, her yoga teacher, her therapist, and Jonathan.<\/p>\n

Then came one of those moments unique to a film festival: she turned to Jonathan and said, \u201cI\u2019ll let you talk now, but don\u2019t talk about everything.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Jonathan\/Photo: Nir Shaananai<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Jonathan said, \u201cNot long after I started dating Ibitsam she told me that she wanted to film us because she was making a documentary about her life. I went along for the ride, I didn\u2019t have a choice. About 6 weeks ago she called me, after we had not spoken for a year.\u201d<\/p>\n

It was at that point that Jonathan learned that the movie\u2019s focus was about the relationship. Of the movie he said, \u201cI think it does a fantastic job representing the emotional realities.\u201d Of the relationship, he said that when he first met Ibtisam, \u201cThe only thing I knew is that she was beautiful and like many guys in Tel Aviv that was enough.\u201d<\/p>\n

As the relationship deepened and they came to know and appreciate one another\u2019s qualities, growing closer, the inherent difficulties also became more apparent. Jonathan revealed, \u201cNot long after the movie we broke up. The gap between us is too great and we couldn\u2019t make it work. I don\u2019t regret having tried and loved, and having been filmed through all of it. I hope you enjoyed the movie I certainly did.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Photo: Nir Shaanani<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

He expressed the hope that perhaps seeing the film will help others confronting similar situations. Seeing these two people, who had the courage to follow their hearts and minds, conveying a message that romantic love may not overcome all obstacles, but caring and respect can endure, was an inspiring, unforgettable experience.<\/p>\n

\u00a0AYELET DEKEL<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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